Sunday, July 21, 2013

Out of the box. What does it really mean anyway?

The question is
do you want to be 'in the box'
'out of the box'.
The box with it's implications of
rigidity and squareness
symbolizes constrained and unimaginative thinking.
I think
the box also indicates safety.
Being sure of your boundaries.
Knowing where  borders begin and where they end.
I have no problem with what the expression tries to convey -
the importance of looking at things in a new way.
That can be what makes a person stand out in creativity.
But when did being 'in the box' become boring
and being 'out of the box' insinuate interesting?
I wouldn't say it's the only or necessary way to be unique and original.
Another direction to take is simply
being happy and in a good mood.
It broadens ones thoughts and actions
without the need to step 'out of the box'.
Oxygen to the brain stimulates your mind.
Running, dancing...
That is not so out of the box.
Feeling blaaa?
Do a few jumping jacks.
Read something funny that makes you laugh.
Really laugh.
You'll feel invigorated enough to reach inside yourself
where all your creativity is stored in the first place.
Parents - encourage uniqueness
whilst providing stability.
Be responsive to your kids needs
while challenging them to develop skills.
The more skills (knowledge) one has
the more potential there is
to translate original thinking,
from abstract to actuality.
So forget this 'out of the box' concept.
Learn as much as you can
teach as many ways as you know how
and you will see how much creativity there is in each one of us.
Speaking about that special standout kind of person
here's one original, interesting, and
(i love that word!)
little girl.
As a result of spending lots of time with adults
she says the funniest things.
She is not your 'typical' little girl.
Some would say she is "out of the box"
I say she is an original!

She always had a sparkle within her.

From the very beginning it was apparent that she was determined to be 'miss independence.'

I am thrilled that I document the memories of her development and growth.
I wouldn't want to forget a thing.
watch this first!

Monday, July 8, 2013

You may be out of my sight... but never out of my mind...

Can you miss your child every minute she's not with you?
There is something about this one in particular that makes me miss her alot.
Maybe it's her energy...
her passion
her joy
her ability to move forward,
at a pace that most of us cannot maintain,
that I find so intriguing.
She is a walking box of crayons.
The biggest box of colors you could find.
It's a burden to be given that kind of charisma.
It's powerful.
It's awesome to watch her compete
with herself.
I think this girl does exactly what Hashem wants her to.
She uses her G-d given gifts to
inspire and love.
So what do I do when I miss her?
I don't call.
She's really busy!
I pull out my stuff and do what I love best.
I remember.
I craft.
I document.

Do you want to join me?
Start by scraplifting.
I've shared the idea with you here.
Find a layout you love and make it your own.
It's a quick way to satisfy a strong desire to get it done.
The original layout is here.

If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden.  ~Claudia Ghandi

Friday, July 5, 2013

happy birthday my little one...

....when I'm old I'll still need you
you're my sister and my favorite friend.
and I promise I'll be here
like you've been there for me time and again...
(full lyrics here)

Having six daughter is a blessing times six.
It's a beautiful thing for a parent
to see her children
loving each other.
I think it's the ultimate form of nachas.

...and when you need me
I'll be here at any time
I love you
sister of mine...

Don't waste the moment.

Call your sister!

Monday, May 13, 2013

Happy Mothers Day

Yesterday I got lots of calls.
Happy Mothers Day!
It's nice to be recognized
by your kids
by their friends.
It's nice.
But what's really nice about motherhood
is seeing the adults that you grow.
Although you never want to let go
you have to know...
“But kids don't stay with you if you do it right. 
It's the one job where, 
the better you are, 
the more surely you won't be needed in the long run.” ― Barbara Kingsolver
R. is one of these kids.
She exceeds my expectations
of what is good
and right.
Her ability to connect
is a gift we all secretly envy.
She just loves
with all of her heart
no matter who, how old
or what background you may be from.
This comes from being non-judgemental
(she definitely got that from me LOL!!!)
(from her father for sure!)
and just plain giving.
This girl makes me proud.
In a million ways.
Proud to be her Mother
for sure.
Honored to be her friend.

Took me a few hours to make this layout.
more layering.
Trying to use up all my stash
before I allow myself to buy more.
That could take years
but I am determined.
(well maybe not ALL my stash.
come on lets be realistic.)

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Happy Birthday Shlam.

I read a great book this weekend.
The Light Between The Oceans by M.L. Stedman.
It is about the all consuming desire of motherhood
regardless of personal pain, sacrifice and lies.
Great read.
Thought provoking.
Having children is undoubtedly the greatest gift of life.
The ultimate leap of faith.
Trusting that the world
in to which we bring this child,
will provide them with great things.
A joy as deep as pain.
An agony as exhilarating as pleasure.
When you make loving and caring for others
the story of your life
there is never a final chapter.
The joy continues on always.
Page after page.
When they were young
I was their teacher
but as they grow older
I am more often the student.
The older generation has a different take on this.
When I gently protest to my mother
"Ma, I'm a middle aged woman.
I think I know what I'm doing."
She responds
"I'm still older than you."
Toni Morrison writes in Beloved
"Grown don't mean a thing to a mother.
A child is a child.
They get bigger, older, but grown?
What's that supposed to mean?
In my heart it don't mean a thing."
Yet I still maintain my children can teach me much.
Shlam, you teach me to have empathy.
Understanding of differences.
You show me
that being your mother
is (and I quote)
"finding a piece of yourself 
separate and apart
that all the same
you could not live without" -jodi picoult
Happy Birthday Shlam.
May this year bring you
wonder and joy
new experiences
and what every mother wants
Love you.

Being a mother is the great gift of life...

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Took 54 years to truly enjoy...

“In truth a family is what you make it. 
It is made strong, not by number of heads counted at the dinner table, 
but by the rituals you help family members create, 
by the memories you share, 
by the commitment of time, 
love you show to one another, 
by the hopes for the future you have as individuals and as a unit.”
Marge Kennedy

So it took me 54 years to truly enjoy Pesach.
And it was worth the wait.
Do you want to know what ENJOY means?
Having all my children under one roof
fast asleep...
Walking towards the kitchen in the morning
as I turn the corner
little humans will be running towards me
as the wrap their little arms
around my legs.
Listening from the other room
to the bursts of laughter
coming from my children
loving each other through teasing
as only a family has permission to do.
Knowing all the while
they are building bonds
stronger than steel
never to be broken.
Gathering together
twice a day
for a delicious meal
and accepting authentic praise
for making yummy food
out of 5 ingredients
for 7 days.
Sharing private minutes with each of my children
reconnecting through hugs and kisses
and hearing
who they are
who they've become
and who I am becoming
through their process.
Because at the end of the day
my children is the sum of all my parts.
When they leave I focus back on myself.
I am left with lessons learned
from my children
(and there are many
which I will slowly share
as they become part of me).
is being in the moment.
We had 10 days of
Because at the end of the day
it's not about how much we have
it's about how much we enjoy...

.I love hand stitching on a layout about family.
It feels cozy!

Sunday, April 28, 2013

New and Improved....

Dear Sarale,
If I would have been born in this day and age
I probably would have been you.
When I am with you
I see myself.
My genes
your expression.
My strengths
your accomplishments.
My humor
your laughter.
My heart
your tears.
My commitment to family
your love for your family.
My candor
your honesty.
My perseverance
your spunk.
In my eyes
you are the new and improved version of me.
Each day to me is a fresh start to try again.
You are a constant work in progress.
Every day is a welcome experience for a new challenge.
To take a lesson from.
In order to become a better person.
To delight in.
To explore.
That's you.
That's me.
Love you alot....

"As long as you could find yourself, you'll never starve" - Suzanne Collins